Just got back from Bunko, only we didn't play Bunko, we played LCR. Fun for the whole family, you should try it! Bunko, LCR or whatever, it's a once a month Girl's Night Out and we've been playing for 11 years, now. Well, we haven't actually been playing for 11 years, we go home in between because it's not possible to stay awake for 11 years, much less play the same game for 11 years. That'd get kind of boring and you family might not like it if you were gone that long. Much food and drink is consumed and I am going to have the biggest appetizer hangover tomorrow.
Anyway, each month, Bunko is hosted by a different person. You have to decide what to serve, shop for prizes, set up tables, find the dice and, most importantly, you have to CLEAN YOUR HOUSE. Yes, you have to make your house look effortlessly clean, as if you live like that all the time even though the people who know you best know that it's not true. Yet, they help you perpetuate the charade for the benefit of the people you don't know as well. That's what friends do, they feed you delusions of cleanliness and orderliness until you, too, start to believe you live like that. Then, after everyone leaves, your "clean house" mellow is harshed when you are left alone to survey the appetizer aftermath.
My point (well, kind of) is thus, events, even if they are small and casual, are a lot of work for the host. It is only right that you RSVP to them. RSVP means let them know either way if you are coming and it seems to be a lost art. Apparently, for some people, it's hard to make a committment to an invitation, they seem to be worried that something better might come along. Your grandmother taught you better than that, she would be very unhappy with you. It's common courtesy to repsond to an invite, and, besides, people like me need to know how many people will be snooping around the house, it determines where I hide the junk before you come.
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Yeah, what's up with the deterioration of RSVP skills? That drives me crazy. And forget about putting "Regrets Only" on an invitation - people have no clue what that means. My sister in law has a term for cleaning prior to company coming over - she calls it "box cleaning" as in "put everything in a box and hide the box."
This is an all-time pet peeve of mine. My theory (and experience) is that it's those people who NEVER RSVP also never seem to reciprocate the hosting. Or maybe I'm just more anal than they are. Also, I have a pic of my thermo. in the 'Burban that reads 117...insanity.
I agree! We have a birthday party on Saturday for my daughter and we are yet to hear from anyone either way. So we (my wife) have to plan accordingly.
Just once I'd like to say, "oh we didnt think you were coming since you didnt call to RSVP and there wont be enough food." But I would NEVER do that LOL
I've even put "call if you arent coming" to no avail!
I'm convinced that parents, of the children that were invited to Seth's party last year, have NO concept of how polite it is when they RSVP.
We were planning a sleepover and a night at Dave & Buster's. We had 2 parents RSVP...6 Children showed up. I wanted to smack the mothers.
I"m with you-- if I am cleaning my house, you had darn well better rsvp... I have bunco the 1st tuesday of each month-- fun!!
I don't think that people understand what RSVP means.......until it's THEIR party!! Then all of the sudden it's "why hasn't anyone called to rsvp??" It really irks me!! One of these days, I'm just going to send out the invites and have food and drink accordingly--meaning if two people respond, I have food enough for them and me ONLY!! If other people show up...I do have water and peanut butter sandwiches if they would like something!!
I so agree! It drives me crazy when people don't RSVP!! I had to chase down people that were invited to Pookie's birthday party last year and find out if they were coming or not, because hardly anyone RSVP's anymore.
Amen, sister!
I'm with everyone else - RSVP or else!
Yeah, I have a beef with non-RSVPers, which reminds me, I need to call on a birthday invitation! I'll probably be riled up about it after I host MY bunko group this month and will have to blog about it!
RSVPing is common courtesy but this isn't the only situation where it becomes obvious that courtesy and sense really aren't that common at all. So rude!
My book club solved that "cleaning house" problem by having our meetings at the book store. It works great and no one has to see the stains on my carpet!
Adults can be worse than kids about responding or committing to invitations. It gets very old very fast.