No suggestions at all, but I am going to check back to see what other readers offer. My five year old watched part of Hocus Pocus over the weekend and I was shocked that he didn't ask what a virgin was after they mentioned it about a thousand times. I had already made up my mind that I was going to tell him a Virgin was someone born in early September. I thought that might hold him for a year or too until he figured out that was a Virgo.

If you want to take the read-a-story-to-your-child approach rather than a self-help for parents book, consider Ruth Hummel's "Where Do Babies Come From"...I'm pretty sure that Barnes & Noble has it in stock if you want to give it a peek.

No ideas, but good luck. That's a tough one. Thank heavens for history, huh?

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0818402539/102-0390128-4764958?v=glance&n=283155&n=507846&s=books&v=glance

This is what i was read at the age of 9. It is direct and to the point, but seems a little corny now, it didnt at the time.

Fasten you seat belt, be sure you tray is upwright and good luck is all I can say -- The lyrics to the song, "It's Only Just Begun" (Williams, Nichols song wirters) comes to mind. Take all the advise you get from comments or others sources, cause -- I don't really have any. Oh, BTW, they don't learn it all from computers, as if you didn't know.

Gulp. I guess the days of looking at Mom's copy of Cosmo are a thing of the past. Our son's are already playing in the big leauges.

I think a talk from Dad would be more suitable so he won't get embarrassed about why he is interested and 'what' is happening when he checks out sites like that.

My son is 9 and hasn't got to that stage yet. Let me know what you decide to do so I know what to do when the time comes.

oh my goodness, does this really happen? I'll cry!

Oh geez. I'm sure my time is right around the corner, too.

I can show him how to clear that. ;)

After he clears the history file, remind him to turn back on nominal cookies after suppressing them during surfing, then clear all internet files and reboot.

If he really wants to be clever....*slap*

Wow! I wish I had known there were books to help. :(
Mine had a one time 'class' at school and many many talks...

Good luck!

I assume we're talking about Busy Boy and not TPFKABB, yes?

'Cause that would be impressive.

Dr. Dobson's Preparing for Adolescence (might be a little mature for age 9) and B-Safe Online (a great screening program) as an extra hedge of protection for the whole family. It emails you a list of every attempted and visited website each week.

Noooooo! I cannot think about that, too right now. My boys are too little (I hope), but SugarPlum isn't. *sigh*

I don't remember the book we got our daughter two years ago, but it covered everything from body changes, to that P word to that three letter S word. When we handed it to her, we said any questions just ask, she never did, so then we sat down, and went over it. Section by section and as embarrassing as it was, we all learned something, it's much better to talk about it.

I had this situation with my son when he was 11 and our computer crashed and thats how I found out. I had a talk with him about purity, and about being desensitized. He begged me to ground him from the computer for life, but I explained that he had to learn self control now so that when he lived alone he could control himself. I have a particularly sensitive son, for which I am very grateful!!!

My wife teaches biology; so she's already started on the physical stuff.

The emotional stuff? I'm pretty much just going to refer them to the collective works of the Rolling Stones and Meatloaf. They pretty much cover it all.

Any questions after that I'm sure he'll know how to use Google.

Is this helping you any?

no clue. Just bought Diva the American Girl book " the Keeping of you book" Or something like that... Covered EVERYTHING!

I just couldn't let this go...I know how hard this is...I cried...my little boy was gone...I was very honest with him and open. It really bonded our relationship in a new way after we talked.

You're in luck. Not only do I have 2 books: Isn't It Amazing and Who Am I? Where Did I Come From? -- I also have your speech already written out. It's the first post in my July archives. (My computer is slow-- I can't link!)
Actually, maybe that's a better example of what NOT to say.

Anyway, good luck with it.

Anne

We used a 4 step process...the first was a book called "Whats happening to me?" By Peter Mayle - it covers both boys & girls which I thought was a good thing to do. The the boy had a nice chat with his father, and that worked for quite a while. Eventually there was another chat with his father which was supplemented by a rather straightforward book called "Whats Going On Down There" by Karen Gravelle. We're all for full disclosure, but did read both the books before handing them off and left post-it notes in them with notes from us.
Good Luck!

Time to take a deep breath and head to Barnes & Noble. First stop at the Cafe for a coffee, then off to the adolescents section for some reading and selecting of the 'right' book for your busy boy. Deep breath.

Yikes... lalalalala...i can't hear you... our children will never look at such things, will they? What kind of stuff was he looking at, like victoriassecret.com or worse? i'd be losing my mind right about now...

First, move the computer to a "common area" in the house so everyone sees what everyone is doing (and it keeps temptation at bay)!

As for books, I'll have to look into it ... my son is eight.

Good luck!

The Bible. Lots of horny stuff in the Bible. Lots AND LOTS of begatting, and talk about that can lead somewhere, I bet.

Ugh, this gives me nightmares thinking about it. I am dreading the fast approaching talks. Definitely taking notes on what has been suggested.

Yeesh. Been there, done that. We never purchased a book. We simply had lots of talks about what was appropriate and inappropriate and mentioned the fact that little sister was using the same computer. Our school has this lady come in every year and talk to the 5th graders with a parent present. It basically does all the dirty work...i.e. facts of life explanation. Since the kids are there together, there are no ridiculous rumors/stories going around. Good luck!

1.What's Going on Down There: Answers to Questions Boys Find Hard to Ask
2.What's Happening to My Body? Book for Boys : A Growing Up Guide for Parents and Sons
My advice, leave them for him to read and get copies for yourself so you can read on your own without taking his.

Just count yourself lucky (or not, depending on how you look at it) that Busy Boy either doesn't know or forgot how to cover his tracks in your web browser. :)

I have been thinking about you since my last comment. I think there are two seperate issues that need to be addessed. The first is the talk about puberty and the changes happening. The second would be looking at porn. As a woman I see porn as demeaning and though I know boys will be boys it is not something that should be made light of.
I think 'the talk' will be the easy part. The porn issue will be the tough one.
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On a different note, I was wondering how your mom is. She is still in my prayers. ;)

Good advice here. The only thing I would add is that I was very aware of what was going on "down there" with me; what I really needed was information on what was going on with the opposite sex. Naivete in that area cost me dearly as a teenager.

My father's speech consisted of, "You're at that age when hair will starting growing around your pee-pee, and that's okay."

Thanks, Dad.

You want to borrow my husband? EEK. We had to "discuss" that in various phases (I couldnt do it all at once) recently. I dont envy you.

check this out
http://readshlog.blogspot.com/2005/10/good-and-bad-naked.html

the entire "every man's battle" series comes to mind. There are so many books in the series now. A great one for Dads to use with their sons. A great one for Moms to use with their daughters.

Another who's been there, done that. AFTER he'd read the book. His sister has the book now, and is still sticking to kid-friendly sites.

The book? It's Perfectly Normal. And they have it at Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0763624330/qid=1129666418/sr=1-1/ref=sr_1_1/103-3200354-6508608?v=glance&s=books

It all starts innocently enough and then you get called to the school.

My oldest (now 15) discovered porn around the same age as BB during a research paper of the Whitehouse.

Note to parents: www.whitehouse .com is a porn site, www.whitehouse.gov is the real site.

Even worse, they take this URL knowledge to school and share with their friends in the computer lab.

Brrrrnnng, Hello? Yes I'll come to the school this afternoon. He what??

"Where Did I Come From," by Peter Mayle.

You will die laughing at the illustrations, and your kids will learn what it's all about.

What I did with my son was to get the series of tapes from Dr. James Dobson and we went on a "guys-only" weekend. ZDog still talks about that weekend, and he's now 24. Of course, you'd have to get cooperation from Busy Dad. My wife did the same thing with our daughter, so you'd get your turn as well!

Oh boy! This too shall pass. When my daughter was in this phase and we found her history trail, we pulled her aside and assured her we were there for her if she had questions.

Me: Erin, do you have any questions about sex?

Erin: Well NOT ANY MORE!

Sigh.