I had lunch with an acquaintance today, though she's not really a "friend", we don't normally hang out together or anything, I've known her for several years and we've had lunch before. So, someone tell me why this was the most awkward meeting in the world? I have no idea why, but I was having the worst trouble deciding where to look as we were talking. I felt like I was boring a hole through her skull if I looked right at her, yet, I felt like I looked "shifty" if I looked away. Fooling with my lunch only provided a temporary resolution to my dilemma. Compounding the problem was the fact that I could hear myself "yammering", it was like I was detatched and watching myself in this scene, waiting eagerly to hear what I would say next.
I think it may have something to do with the fact that I wasn't planning on having lunch with anyone (this meeting was spontaneous) and I'm very, very tired from my bad mood last night and my sleep-impaired family. It was the weirdest thing, though, I'm not usually quite this socially awkward (those of you who actually know me? shut. up.), but now I feel like some Saturday Night LIve skit character: Awkard Gaze Girl.
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Use it for good, though, not for evil. Or at least not for too much evil.
Oh, I so understand what you had to deal with. I've got one in-law that I always feel the same way when I talk to her. Am I rude if I look past her, am I taking the "gazing into her eyes" too far? Much anxiety ensues.
This is why I always have an excuse for why I can't go to lunch.
This is how I felt when we had lunch. People, even cool ones like you, freak me out.
I thought I'd take this opportunity to give you the go ahead to look to my right (your left) when we finally get around to having our lunch. If that's too uncomfortable for you, just switch tables.
I have a friend that canNOT make eye contact. she will look everywhere but at my eyes, it is quite odd.
Ugh I have aquaintences like that and can totally understand. It just stinks and is so uncomfy being around them. ICK
Wine. That's my solution.
I have the same situation with this one girl, but she keeps calling me for lunch so it must not bother her. Hope the food was good!
Hmm...it probably was because it was unplanned and you were tired. Or...it might be your alter-ego Awkward Gaze Girl. I could be Random Comment Guy!
Blame it on the bread. ;)
-G
At times like that, I always think of Chris Farley banging his head with his hand after each comment and saying, "Flippin' IDIOT!"
We all have those moments, girl!
I hate running into people you do not consider friends and then having to have extended conversations with them. I dont call it socially awakward, I call it normal. Who the hell knows what to do in those situations but a used car salesman, who can talk to anybody, supposedly.
Don't you hate that!Occasionally I can't find anything to say.Occasionally.lol
It's always like that when somebody has a real bad "sleep head" that you would like to comb out but don't even dare look at or mention. Or the spinach on the cuspid. Your mental health is okay. It was her fault.
Oh I hate that "yammering" - I've been known to do that, too, when I'm in a state of awkwardness.
Lack of sleep can do strange things to you!
That just does not sound like you. I say it was a fluke, nothing to worry about. Go with that.
wow, I have been in that same situation. I hate that! felt so awkward. I swear it is my ADD.
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I *HATE* those out-of-body experiences where you can't seem to stop yourself from droning ON AND ON AND ON! It's such a horrible feeling, like that slow motion movie sequence where the main character is powerless to stop the huge plate of spaghetti and meatballs from toppling into her boss' lap...or something.
Wow, I just did the droning on and on thing online. How very sad for me. Clearly I need help for this condition.
I'm right there with ya! I have the same problem if I talk to someone that isn't closely related to me or a very close friend. I think mine came from a youth pastor I had who used to stare--intently-- into my eyes and not ever look away. It weirded me out! He would also say, "How are you doing?" When I told him I was fine, he would say, "I see something in your eyes that tells me you aren't all that fine. What's going on?" Ever since then I can't stand to look someone in the eyes for very long.
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I have a co-worker who I occassionally have lunch with and the same thing happens to me. We used to work in deparemnts where we did a lot of work together, but that has changed. I found that I need to make a list of topics to discuss prior to the lunch to keep the conversation moving. Otherwise I am staring at the door looking to see who's coming in.