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Thursday, February 9
My mother is back in the hospital

My mom (lung cancer) is back in the hospital. Same stuff, different day: fatigue, shortness of breath, etc. For some reason, though, she said I didn't need to stay with her at night this time, so, it's easier on me, physically. I am a little weirded out, since this is the first time she has been admitted to the oncology unit. She is usually admitted to the medical unit, it may just be because they're full, I'm not sure. She's going to get fluid drained from her lung tomorrow. Yep, that's the second time in just a few weeks, never a sign of anything good.

Most of the time, when she's sick, I'm just a big, unmedicated, ball of anxiety accomplishing neither sleeping, eating, nor basic household tasks. But, I'm actually OK this time, so far. I hate to admit it, but, I think it's because when she crumps ("goes downhill", sorry, it's the ER nurse in me), it's usually at night when I'm there by myself with her, and, I have a hard time shaking it off. Even though it's not all about me, I think I'm better off with this arrangement as it enables me to properly take care of my family, as well her, while this is going on. She has a very good nurse tonight, I'm sure things will be OK, and, I'm going back early in the morning.

10:47 PM | Comments (39) |

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Holding a good thought for you and for your mom. I don't know how you do it.


Hope you get some good sleep tonight. Take care of you, too!

Your family will be in my prayers.

I think the hardest part of having a parent with cancer is NOT making it all about me. As children, that is our job. I am not saying we can't be helpful in every possible way but it is ok to be the child in this relationship. I still struggle with the feelings of what I would do if I lost my mom. It has never really been about how she was feeling. I feel like a total shit for even thinking that but I have leanred it is a common thread among children with palliative parents.

I'm praying for you and your mom.

I think that you are doing a great job, with family, work and your mum. Sending positive vibrations to you both.

my mom has inoperable lung cancer in both lungs, and i can really relate to the stress you feel. you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Hope you both were able to rest last night. I'm so sorry to hear she's back in the hospital.

Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Take care of yourself, Busy Mom.

Posted by: Lisa | February 10, 2006 6:06 AM

I'm sure sorry about that busy mom.

Big hugs, Busymom. Takecare of you--take two diet cokes and blog us in the morning.

Posted by: Ang | February 10, 2006 6:13 AM

Sorry to hear your mom is back in the hospital Busymom... I remember the first time my mom was in the Oncology Unit.. Just seeing the sign above the entryway was a moment I'll never forget- even though I'd know for a long time that mom had cancer.. Hang in there and take care of you. Your mom's blessed to have such a wonderful daughter..

Big hugs to you and your Mom. And, as always, lots of prayers

More prayers for your mom & for the whole Busy family!

Hang in there, all of you.
I hope this goes well.


Prayers are heading north. Take care of yourself as well.

I am so sorry to hear she is back in the hospital. I am glad you are able to stay with your family and take care of yourself at the same time.

I was there with my Dad in 2003. It is best for you to be rested. My thoughts will be with you and your Mom. I hope you were both able to get some rest overnight.

Hope you got a good nights sleep and that your mom will be back home quickly. Keep us posted.

My thoughts are prayers are with you both.

I work in a nursing home and understand the difficulties children go through when their parents are sick. My best advice is to take care of yourself or you will not be able to take care of your family. Your mom is in good hands I am sure! I posted the pork chop recipe you asked for - it's great comfort food. Take care and know that we are all thinking of you, your family and your mom.

Ok, so you weren't the one who asked for the pork chop casserole...but try it any way. You just might like it. Sorry.

Posted by: Emily | February 10, 2006 8:58 AM

Still praying for you and your family.

The prayers have never stopped for you and your mom. Hope she gets better soon and for you.

Posted by: formerborodad | February 10, 2006 9:29 AM

we're keeping you and your mother in our hearts and prayers. ~

Oh man, I'm so sorry. I think your mom must understand- After all, she's a mother too and knows what it's like to have a family to take care of.

Hang in there!

Sorry to hear she is back in the hospital. Take care of yourself! You will be in my prayers.

Sending prayers for your mom and Diet Coke to you.

prayers from me, too!

Gee, Mom, I hope this settles down soon. I am distressed when you get all worried up. I miss your cheeriness. Hugs.

I'm so sorry about your mom. But you are right, you have to keep a sense of normality about you or else you can really start to lose it.

I'll be keeping you guys in my thoughts.

Being a nurse means you know too much to worry about! Larisa is a nurse too and she does the same thing when her dad is sick. Sometimes knowing so much is hard. Will be praying and praying...

Posted by: Lygia | February 10, 2006 11:24 AM

as always I'm keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers. *hugs*

Sending Diet Coke, stat.

(And thinking of you, too.)

Hugs across the Atlantic to you all.

More prayers, because you know you can never have too many.

We'll be praying as well. God Bless.

My prayers and thoughts are with your Mom and family. I just went through this last year with my Dad. He also had lung cancer so I know what your going through. Hang in there!

Posted by: AJ | February 11, 2006 9:27 AM

I know I'm still rather new around here, but I'm sorry to hear the news about your mom. Sending good thoughts your way!:)