we're with you... in the computer yes, but still with you. maybe try to sleep some - that helps pass time, as well as gives you much needed rest. what you think? BD can handle the kids... this we know.

Take care and do your best to get some rest. And yes, I remember the crying...showing up at the most inconvenient times...mmmm

big hugs your way...

I'm so very sorry. Hugs and hang in there.

Dad was buried 10 days after he died (b/c he was buried at Arlington Nat'l Cemetery). Those were the longest 10 days. Having him gone, but not feeling like we had gotten to the good-bye yet. I'm sorry you guys have the same. Continuing to pray...

The crying, she will come unexpectedly for months to come. Carry tissues with you at all times.

We had about the same length of time between my mother's death and funeral, but I have to say that with all six of my siblings together for an extended period for the first (and only time) in our adult lives, it was a very healing time. I imagine it's much different for you as an only child, but I am glad to hear that you are surrounded by friends.

I truly am sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom 3/31/06 this year and I have wondered about you for a while. The crying does not end, nor does it happen when you want it to. Sitting months later, I went to call my Mom to tell her about the lady with the curb feelers on her chin, and totally lost it. I didn't cry when she died really. Please know those that know you, understand, and those that don't screw um...

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I would send a mass card, but I think my priest might think its odd when I explain she is a blogging friend. So know that I am saying special prayers for a friend I feel like I know, but don't...

Busymom and family,

As I've mentioned, I too have suffered the recent loss of my mother, also to lung cancer. Yes, the tears will come out of nowhere and other days you wake up feeling fine and suddenly will find yourself down in the dumps and you can't explain why. And it's the little things that get you - like picking up the phone to call her. You know they're really gone, but a part of you just doesn't want to accept it. I'm not sure it gets easier with time, but it does get easier to cope with time. Know that you and your entire family continue to be in my thoughts, and the thoughts and prayers of so many others.

*smooch*

That's all.

The tears...oh yes...when you least expect them. My daddy passed in February and those tears still flowing. Just allow yourself to cry when you feel the need. Take care!

I'm so, so sorry. If the random people in life are taken by surprise by the tears, well...grief is a difficult, painful, wrenching, uncontrollable thing, and enough of us have experienced it to one degree or another, that after the shock wears off, we recognize and empathize with it when we see it in strangers. I'm sure that behind any shell shocked looks were thoughts along the lines of "if I knew her I'd totally hug her right now, and if it wasn't too forward I'd do it anyway, even though I don't really know her."

So sorry to hear about your mom.

Wish there was something I could say that made it better, but there isn't.

Hang in there, eat the grief buffet, don't be embarrassed if you can't figure out why you're in a given room at a given time.

And if you imbibe, have a drink on me.

Hang in there, Busy Mom. And you have EVERY right to shed more than a few tears. You go right ahead. They can answer to ME if they give you odd looks over it!

(((HUGS)))

Dear heart, I am so sorry. I'd hug you tight if I could reach you, and I'd bring homemade bread and potato salad and chicken. Death is as natural as life, but it always comes too soon, and we are never ready. Bless you and your family; many people who've never seen you are thinking about you right now.

My heart aches for you - so very sorry for your loss.

You're in my thoughts and prayers.

I'm reading you carefully these days because my grandfather is about to pass away in a few weeks, trying to help my mom (the only daughter) handle it. These are reminders about the brevity of life, aren't they? Take care.

Hugs. And take care. Eat, rest, sleep.

Of course we're with you. Whole heartedly.

Remember the good times with Mom. That's bittersweet, but I'm sure she's good for a few laughs with family. From what you've shared, she was a card, just like you. Hugs to you sweetheart.

So I smiled in recognition at these last two posts. My grandmother died over July 4 and we had to postpone the funeral (by a day) b/c they couldn't locate one of my uncles who, as it turned out, at the time, was enjoying the holiday on the river, out of cell phone range. I am sure that we will all discuss this again next month when the cell phone bills (for everyone else) come in. In the end it was better. The day they wanted at first, it poured down rain all day.

Cry all you want. Hugs from me.

You and your family are in our Prayers. Cry all you need to and cherish the memories of your mom.

I'm glad you are receiving the support you need and deserve at a time like this. It may only be through a computer screen, but it's heartfelt all the same. And a reply isn't necessary, because it's about you and not about us.

Your mention of the Dillards salesclerk reminded me of a Father's day I worked a few years ago at Kohl's. Three women in their thirties were checking out with their mom. There were purchasing some nice outifits, and I commented something to the fact. They told me that their Daddy just died. They lost it right there at the register. I didn't know what to say, so I cried right along with them.

Many hugs to you.

I'm so sorry for your loss. :(

I have been to too many funerals lately and too many of them were for teenagers. None of it has made me smarter in learning what to say or how to comfort people. I have learned no answers to those big questions that begin with Why?. Here is what I do know. I avoided your site, being afraid I would read of your mother being gone. Then when I opened it, I saw that I was right. Now isn't that something. You and I, Busy, are strangers. I only know of your parents through your words and yet, I had a strong enough pull between us to "feel" something had happened. People, we of the human race, are connected one to the other. That is about all these last few grueling months have taught me. Even when you weren't writing about your parents, we, your blogging friends, knew they had to be something special because you are who you are. May you and your family continue to honor your mother by being who you are. And by connecting to others who cared for her and you.

Maybe one of your friends dropped off some borscht for you? And that's what's given you the Russian accent.

Bless you . . . .

{HUGS} & prayers~~
I haven't read the other comments, if I repeat something--forgive me; my father and my daughter are both in heaven, and I encourage you to have something planned (a lunch date, massage, movie, something) for a few weeks from now. The "busy-ness" of these immediate days will resolve, everyone's lives fall back into a rythym and you may look around at the end of August and think, "What?". God holds your tears, so go ahead and cry...I pray that He sings special songs to you in the night.
Love, Chrissy

I wish I had something really helpful to say. . .I'm so sorry for your terrible loss.

I wish there was something I could do for you way up here in Canada. For now.

{Russian accent} -((((((((((Here hug))))))))))))

Oh, BusyMom, I am so sorry. I've been so caught up in my own whining lately that I have not been over here. I wish that there was soemting I could say or do. But I am holding all of you in my prayers.

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my father just over a month ago to a very suuden heart attack. From what I hear that feeling of gut wrenching loss never quite goes away, but after awhile it just doesn't encompass your entire being.

My thoughts, hope and prayers include you and your family.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

I have just returned from vacation, and am saddened to hear the news of your mother's death. My thoughts and prayers are with you in what is surely a difficult time for you and your family.

Try and rest when you can. Grief is a very unpleasant emotion and sneaks up on you at the weirdest moments. When I lost my father my grief manifested into Hateful Wife Syndrome. Sending you lots of healing thoughts and hugs.

Try and rest when you can. Drink Russian Vodka when you can. Grief is an awful emotion that sneaks up on you at the weirdest moments. My heart goes out to you. Grieving the loss of my father was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. Sending you lots of healing thoughts and hugs.

The tears.....they are sneaky things. They tend to arrive completely by suprise sometimes.

I lost Mom unexpectedly in a car accident when I was pregnant with Alexa (almost 8 years ago now). Ya know what, those darn tears STILL sneak up on me!

Take care of you. How's your daddy? If you need ANYTHING, I can be in your town in 2 hours!

Just checking in to let you know I'm thinking about you in LA. :)

I've just read your sad news. I'm so sorry. Grief is an awful thing - it's a long, hard and painful road, but you know you don't have to travel along it alone. Please pass on our most sincere and heartfelt sympathy to you and your family.
Take care.

Big hugs to you, BusyMom. You need to cry. If they don't understand yet, they will someday.

Yea. That crying. Didn't go away for a long time. Took years for my dad. For my mom, a day. Don't know why THAT is, but it was. Some things you can't explain. Some things you shouldn't even think about, I know. But I do. Oh god I do....

I can't seem to find the right words to describe the sorrow that I feel for you and your family, right now. So, instead, I wish you strength and hope that - along with all those who have already commented more articulately - helps.

Sadness permeates everything...and will for some time. But try to push through the numbness and talk with your kids; go to the bookstore and together find a good book about losing someone you love. You'll all feel better about it! Shouts of love to you! She's no longer suffering.

Russian vodka is no good at a time like this, either. But food comforts the soul, so I am pleased you are getting lots of it.

Crying is okay. Time will stem the tide, but only time. Good luck, Mom.

I've never met you - heck, never even read the blog, but tomorrow, the day you will bury your beloved mother, I will be having dental work done. And to think I was dreading it so bad. I'm thankful to still have my mother, and to not be doing that tomorrow. I'm so very sorry for your loss, and the loss those three babies of yours will deal with now. I pray, and you will be included.
--incredimom

My thoughts are with you..take care.

Just wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you today!

Hang in there.

I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family.

E, I'm so sorry. Prayers and love and mileage all coming in your direction. If you know what I mean. All my best thoughts. I'm so sorry.

Keri

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