Busy Girl got her first invitation to a boy-girl party.
A male classmate is celebrating his birthday soon, and, she and some of her friends are among the invited.
Oddly, I don't feel all nostalgic, and, "Where did the time go?"- ish. It's not like it's a date or something, it's just a group gathering. I think I was about the same age when I went to something like this. I'm down wit' it (and hip to the lingo, to boot).
I asked all the requisite questions about chaperones (heh, this definition is pretty amusing) and such, and, the party checks out OK. The dad actually works in my department, but, I don't know him well.
What concerns me more is that the birthday boy is a real "ladies man", and, when asked who he was inviting, he replied, "Everyone but the ugly girls".
Busy Girl likes him OK, so I will trust her judgement, and, she properly chastised him for this statement. I really have no way of knowing whether or not he meant it, but, it bothered me.
I wonder if some of her friends are going to be left out of this party? Will it even matter to them? How will she handle it? Is it really any different from an all-girls or all-boys party where the entire class isn't usually invited?
Maybe I'm just projecting since I'm not sure I would have made the "cut" with the "popular" kids when I was in 7th grade. and, I'm manufacturing concern for people when I don't even know if they need it.
Mechelle? Are you there? Did I even go to any parties in 7th grade?
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My 8th grade daughter has been on the receiving end of some boy-girl party invitations and has NOT been on the receiving end of same. I was prepared for major sadness and drama, but that was not the case. She handled it very well, certainly much better than I would have at her age. Go figure.
I know I wouldn't have made the cut socially, I did get left out of those kinds of parties and I am pretty much in the same boat as you girl-age wise.
Has there been a boy-girl party yet? No, but the Angel did receive her first kiss recently. I feel completely at sea having a popular, pretty daughter because I don't know what "normal" is for this kind of kid.
So no, I don't think you are manufacturing concern.
Good for Busy Girl for setting him straight! Sounds like you are doing a great job in giving her self-esteem. I hope she has fun.
I wonder where Busy Girl gets this from? Could it be the Apple doesn't fall too far...?
7th grade! The zenith of my own personal awkwardness...
Hope BG has fun!
Hey.. Music girl just went to one the night before last - although it was at a country club - it was an interesting situation.. but she had fun! She's been dealing with boys and their trashy mouths lately too, and telling them how they better speak....btw, did you get my email the other day?
I don't remember 7th grade. We went to parties in 8th grade that were fun.
my first "Real" kiss was in 5th grade behind the divider. i was a young kissing little thing. of course i was also the kid that got notes sent home everyday from pre-k thru first grade.
Dear Mother,
Could you please talk to little La La again and ask her not to kiss all the boys? Furthermore please do not chase all of the boys, tackle them to the ground, and then kiss them. And even when the boys allow her to kiss them, this is still not appropriate. We appreciate your understanding and help in this ongoing matter for the past 2 years.
The Teacher.
I'm sure by then the teacher meant to say:
Please tell your hot-lipped little hussy to put her pucker away, it's schooltime!