One of my children plays a sport for a somewhat controversial coach.
We like the coach a lot, and have had no problems.
However, some other parents disagree and have treated the coach pretty badly, and I am embarrassed because I'm associated with them, but, I do not share their opinion.
After assuring the coach that we would remain on the team this upcoming season, we looked at our schedule and realized that we'd probably be too busy to play.
I was dreading, (dreading, I tell you) giving this news because I thought the coach would think we were doing what these other parents are doing and that isn't it AT ALL.
I was all set to send an e-mail, when an e-mail from the coach arrived telling us how wonderful our player is and thanking us for supporting the team when others didn't.
Dammit.
Guess we're still gonna play, although on a limited schedule.
I'm either a wimp, or it's the right thing to do.
Or both.
Not sure.
ADDED: Jay reminded me that in my effort to be "general" about the topic, I left out an important part.
In this particular incidence, in the summer, it's OK to play when you're available, you just have to let them know ahead of time.
And, "I don't feel like playing", is not a valid reason not to go in this house.
I was hesitant to agree because it's not my nature to let them do something less than a full-commitment, but in this case, I think it's the right thing to do.
I feel another post coming on about this because, especially with little kids, people tend to see sports teams as an "activity" that you may or may not do on a Saturday, and not much makes me madder than that, especially when it's my kid playing the game and we're one short.
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It's both.
Yep, I would do the same thing.
Let's call it supportively wimpy (as opposed to wimpily supportive...huh - sorry, both sound kind of icky).
Okay, how about calling it "doing the right thing to set an example for the kids"? Will that work?
I think you're doing the right thing!
uggggh... While I understand your reasoning, I am honestly just not as sure as others are.
One of the things I stress with my daughter (because she wants to do everything) is that she has to choose, because especially with team sports, others are depending on you, and you can't do it all and be half-hearted about it.
Again, I think your heart is in the right place, but if you (and/or the kids) can't really commit to the team/sport then is it really fair to those that are there for the "full schedule?"
Sorry, not trying to make an already awkward situation... but probably have.
It's the right thing to do. I would do the same and just try to make as many practices and games as you can. If you tell the coach in advance when you won't be there it shouldn't affect the team.
You are doing the right thing. Yes it might be wimpy that you are not telling the coach the truth but it's nice of you that you are supporting and helping at the coach by finding time for your child to play on the team.
Oh My, I agree. "I don't feel like it" is not a valid reason in our house either. If you sign up you commit and can't let the team down. However, we play our sports during the school year and NOT during the summer. It's too hot in AZ at that time. So summer has to be hard because families are always on the go and in and out of town. That would be a challegne!! Good Luck!
I think you are correct... it is the right thing to do and as long as the child knows that you are still providing a commitment and letting everyone know upfront that level you will be available. I say "Busy Mom ROCKS!"
Okay, I say "Busy Mom ROCKS" over most anything but this time... you really do rock!
;^)
-d
We have similar rules in our house. You want to play? We'll arrange it, but you are now part of a team is what we teach our kiddos, and that team depends on you to be there. I have no patience for kids and their parents who do not at least notify the coach when they're not going to be there. IF you have the arrangement with the coach for the summer and give him plenty of notice, I see no problem with your team. I find sports to be a great way to teach kids responsibility for themselves but also to others...not to mention a great way to build esteem and coordination.
I would have done the same thing. I am a wimp a good deal of the time, though! I just hate to hurt someone's feelings.
I have tried to enforce the commitment rule with my three girls, but I do give in a little now and then. Told ya! Weak! :)
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