I went to my last little kid class picnic at school yesterday.
You get an end of the year picnic in kindergarten and in first grade, and after that it's not special anymore, you just end school as the rest of the masses do.
But, there was a time that I never dreamed I'd be at this particular event.
You see, the little kid picnic was how I got Busy D. in the first place.
Oh, please. Stop that, eeeew! No, ya perv, it went like this:
At Busy Girl's kindergarten picnic some nine years ago, I recall standing with a group of other mothers, all of whom had kindergarteners as well as kids in high school.
I laughed.
Oh, how I laughed.
I laughed loud and long because I smugly had my girl and my boy conveniently spaced 22 months and 2 grades apart.
And, well, you know the rest of the story.
Busy D. came along 2 years after that conversation, and I've become the mother that used to puzzle me so when Busy Girl and Busy Boy were little.
(Poor Busy D., no telling how often this scenario plays out: "Oh, you know which one Busy D. is, he's the one with the older parents.")
Back then, I had no idea how some of these other parents couldn't see the WONDER of it ALL at EVERY school event. They seemed so very cynical, "How could people be like that?" I wondered to myself.
OK, OK, I wondered to myself and possibly to every other new parent in earshot around me as they murmured in agreement.
But, now I get it, and I'm sure to other folks, I've become "that" mother.
Since he's just in first grade, most of my fellow parents are doing this whole school thing with their First Precious Snowflake, and I have to watch myself, sometimes.
For example, Busy D. (who, in this case, plays the game very well and knows precisely what he is doing) has a bad habit of splaying himself on the floor during basketball, especially after an intense play.
It drives me insane, and yes, I'm that parent yelling, "Busy D., get up already!" while the other parents around me are all, "Ohhh, that poor, poor baby", all the while shooting me dagger eyes.
So, I'll give it the ol', "I mean, um, 'Honey, are you OK?'" to keep the peace since I have 7 more years with these folks.
It's not that I'm mean (You in the back? Shut up.), it's just that I've been doing the whole parenting thing longer than some around me, and I know how it comes out, at least up to the early teens.
I'm also sure there are parents of older teens rolling their eyes at me right this very minute as I wrestle with things like who is she allowed to ride with as her peers get driver's licenses, since they know how it all turns out.
It's all just the circle of parenting life, or something like that, I suppose.
But, back to the picnic, as I said, it was my last one.
As I sat in the row of "retirees" (not retired from parenting, just those of us at an "advanced" age), enjoying our "caboose" kids (there's a lot of cabooses "cabeese"? in this class), I watched as some parents inserted themselves into the boys' baseball game, making rules and ensuring turns were taken fairly.
(That last paragraph was totally a 10 yard penalty for excessive quotation and parenthesis use.)
Appreciating their efforts, but knowing that things would turn our just fine with or without them, I chose to just take in all the picnic sights and sounds, commit this group to memory while they're little, and be grateful for that chance to do it one more time.
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This mother of four with kids in college and middle school solved the problem of "school event overload syndrome" and "school event cynicism syndrome" with her own unique approach.
I don't go.
Yep, you read that right. I don't go.If they aren't serving alcohol (and even then, most of the time), I just won't show up.
My kids have learned to hand me the fliers with an "FYI". If anyone gives them grief about why their mom didn't show up, they have a myriad of made-up stories about horrid accidents or wild coincidences, that leave dear old mom tearing her hair out while they lounge it up at said event.
At a certain age, they even prefer it that way. Promise.
Well, if it makes you feel any better (haha) I have five - oldest is 9 and youngest is 10 months with a 3, 6, and 7 in between - so I have to do this kind of thing over and over and over and over and over without ANY lapse in time. Does it make me a bad mommy that sometimes the whole excited look is simply an act for the sake of my youngens? LOL But all in all, yes it is wonderful to have the chance to do it again. If it were any other way, I would be going through childhood-activity withdrawal, I'm sure!
Imagine being "the Stepmom" and volunteering for the last two years of high school. Making it espec. fun is the fact that nobody at the school even knows what "the mom" looks like? Um, er, yeah, awkward. Just enjoy the moments... this too shall pass.
I have three kids - 16, 13 and 7, so I'm one of "those" moms too. I had to laugh out loud at your description of you telling Busy D. to get up off of the basketball court floor because I would do the same thing to my 7 year old. After dealing with the first two, nothing really phases me anymore.
I'm all weepy over my middle one graduating 1st grade. I suppose when my baby does I'll just be a real mess.
Okay - the First Precious Snowflake line really had me smiling. Classic. Isn't that the truth?
I don't have a caboose kid but I do have three....and I can only imagine that that last school picnic will be bittersweet.
That's a great post. I've got one 14, 11 and 18 months and I totally relate to the "been there, done that." I went to my 11 year old's field day today but I didn't sign up as a helper -- I'm much too old and smart for that. I showed up when I wanted to, took some pictures, hung out with my son, and skipped out when I felt like it. The officials "helpers" had to stay from start to finish. Newbs!
I just published a post about my "over 40 playgroup" and linked back to you.
http://www.fromthemom.com/?p=616
That last paragraph choked me up, big time!
This was a great post. I totally relate because even though mine are 3 years apart my husband and I are "older". With my youngest the parents are still in their late 20s or early 30s....we are well into our 40s. It's funny cause I seem to be one of the more laid back parents (and this is not something anyone in my family thought they would ever say about me) but I think it's an age thing....yes it's become an age thing. Enjoy your summer.